Family Tree









Her face, the gaze so like my father’s that I feel a pang.
Her sturdy spirit pushes against
her unreliable body and sputtering memory.
We smile around the room,
genetics pull us close as we count the years
and treasure the minutes.
How is Auntie Pam, we ask?
How is your father, they ask?
Auntie, uncle, cousins, nieces,
sharing jokes and cups of tea
and stories of good days and
surgeries and babies and weather
and all the bits and pieces of life
that knit our tributaries into one river.

He’s a darling little pork chop, we say of
the newest baby, all smiles and cowlicks.
He’s able to travel again, we say of
our aged father, rallying his body for the trip
to see and hold that baby, his great-great grandson.
We talk about blue eyes and green,
and the names of generations gone,
and how mother and daughter were
buried together because they were never apart in life
and it seemed right.
And yes, we will go and visit the place
where they lay in their forever embrace
while we are in England gathering up
and tending to our roots.

When you are 65

Go to the English seaside
with a picnic
and people you love.
Stop and take too many photos.
Say over and over,
“Isn’t it lovely, just fabulous!”
Smile at every single dog and
sigh at all the babies.
Take a pail and plastic cups,
build a sandcastle then
decorate it with shells,
beach stones and whimsy.
Don’t forget the moat
so the sea can pour in and
cradle your memories.
Bring little pebbles and limpets
back to your B&B then
pack them so very carefully.
Arrive at the airport smelling slightly
of seaweed and sand and September sky.
Put a picture of the castle on your fridge
or phone or both so that the sound of gulls
crying to the waves will swirl and loop
around your heart each morning.

ALH