Family Tree









Her face, the gaze so like my father’s that I feel a pang.
Her sturdy spirit pushes against
her unreliable body and sputtering memory.
We smile around the room,
genetics pull us close as we count the years
and treasure the minutes.
How is Auntie Pam, we ask?
How is your father, they ask?
Auntie, uncle, cousins, nieces,
sharing jokes and cups of tea
and stories of good days and
surgeries and babies and weather
and all the bits and pieces of life
that knit our tributaries into one river.

He’s a darling little pork chop, we say of
the newest baby, all smiles and cowlicks.
He’s able to travel again, we say of
our aged father, rallying his body for the trip
to see and hold that baby, his great-great grandson.
We talk about blue eyes and green,
and the names of generations gone,
and how mother and daughter were
buried together because they were never apart in life
and it seemed right.
And yes, we will go and visit the place
where they lay in their forever embrace
while we are in England gathering up
and tending to our roots.

Do that thing you love.

It doesn’t matter what others think of your favorite pastime. Do what you love. You might only be able to find time once a week or once in a while, maybe as a volunteer, or on vacation. Do what you love when you can.

Others may think it unimportant or kind of silly or a complete waste of time. No matter. It’s for you.

So knit or sky dive or rescue old dogs or paint moons or watch birds or volunteer or count trains and planes or write limericks or make photos of cats or play the harmonica or tinker with that car or bake beautiful cookies. Whatever you love to do, plan to make it happen.

Ignore negative remarks about how you’re spending time. It’s not for anyone else.

This year, give yourself the space to follow your gifts, interests or inclinations. Lean into that thing, that hobby, that fascination. Plant those wildflowers for the bees. Take that crazy trip. Walk the Camino. Go to the beach or the desert or the river every month. Watch butterflies. Design that furniture. Learn to sew. Send cards to your grandchildren or godchildren.

Don’t wait – you never know what might come of it.

This year, give yourself the space to follow your gifts, interests or inclinations.